The Energizers and the Drainers

We all like to be around people who are energizers.  They have positive things to say about situations and other people, they give complements to boost your confidence, they thank you for your efforts, and they are generous with their smiles and laughter.  If you make a mistake, they’ll shrug it off and help you move on.

Drainers are the kind of people we should try to avoid hanging out with…and being.  They usually have something negative to say about situations and other people.  They criticize, condemn, and complain, and can’t stand to see others around them enjoy success.  They rarely smile or thank you for anything, and if you make a mistake, they’ll most likely laugh and rub your nose in it.  Whew…it’s draining just thinking about their negative influence.

The point is, we all have an effect on the people around us.  We can either infuse them with life and energy, or we can suck the life right out of them.  Interestingly enough, drainers choose the path of least resistance.  The natural law of decay is present in every facet of our lives.  A piece of fruit left out in warm conditions will soon decay without the intervention of proper care.  Likewise, unless we purposefully and willfully intervene with our in-born, natural tendency to dwell on negatives, we will become drainers. 

You’ve heard the saying, “One bad apple don’t spoil the whole bunch.”  It ain’t true.  One bad apple makes those closest to it start rotting, which in turn, start rotting those around them.  It’s the natural law of decay. 

Start listening to your self-talk.  If you do nothing to change it, then you will find yourself criticizing, condemning, and complaining.  These negative thoughts will sink down into your heart and spill out of your mouth.  They’ll have a negative impact on your life, and on those around you. 

Your life will take the course that most reflects your ingrained, pervasive thoughts.  Garbage in, garbage out.  Inward truth, energy, love, and virtue will spill out into your life, and into the lives around you.  But the latter takes concerted effort.  It doesn’t just “happen.” 

Look for the energizers in life…positive people, good books, uplifting music and movies, etc.  Run away from the drainers…people who drag you down and make you feel blaaaah.  Avoid negative input as much as you can, and when you can’t, don’t take it personally.  The negativity of drainers isn’t your problem…it’s theirs.  If you put forth some effort, you can find something positive to say in the face of their draining onslaughts.

You can be an energizer…it’s just a thought away!  Enjoy good thoughts today…about yourself and those around you.

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