The Power of YES

Here’s the flip side to my last post, “How to Say NO.”

Sometimes we shoot ourselves in the foot by being afraid to say NO.  And sometimes we shoot ourselves in the foot by refusing to say YES.

“Is there anything I can do for you … anything at all?” asks the philanthropist who lives to give back, searching for those in need.

“Oh, no, I’m fine,” she says as she carries the weight of the world on her shoulders, wondering how she’s going to buy the week’s groceries for her kids, and pay the power bill.

We all know how good it feels to help someone in need.  Perhaps it rises within your soul as a simple thought.  It burns its way into your heart until it becomes a consuming flame of passion.  You’ve just got to do the good deed, and nothing will satisfy the inner longing until it’s done.

You ask.

“Oh, no, that’s OK.  I’m fine.”

Your heart sinks.  You know you could have helped, but they turned you down.  A need goes unmet … and you begin to wonder if it was just a stupid idea.

Don’t do that.  It was indeed a good idea.  She just didn’t know how to say YES.  She didn’t realize the joy she denied you.  She didn’t realize the reward she denied you.  She didn’t realize that in all her prayerful tears, the God of the universe worked in your heart to answer … and she said NO.

Perhaps you’ve heard the story about the man in the midst of the rising flood waters.  It goes something like this:

The waters rose about his home, and he climbed on top of the porch roof.  A guy came by in a rowboat and shouted, “Hop in!”  

“Oh, no,” said the homeowner.  “I’ll be all right.  God will help me.” 

The waters rose higher, and he climbed to the top of the roof.  A guy came by in a motor boat and shouted, “Climb in!” 

“No, God will help me.” 

The waters covered his roof, so he climbed to the top of his chimney.  A helicopter flew by, dropped a ladder, and the rescue worker shouted, “Grab hold!” 

“No, God will help me.” 

The waters rose higher, and the man drowned.  He got to heaven and cried out to God, “Why didn’t you help me?” 

“Well,” said God, “I sent a rowboat, a motorboat, and a helicopter, but you kept saying NO!”

Think about it.  How many rowboats, motorboats, and helicopters have come your way, but you stubbornly said NO, sinking the hearts of those wanting to help?

You would love to hear people say YES to you.  Why not give others a break, and allow them the joy of hearing you say YES?

Peace.

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One Response to “The Power of YES”

  1. slowdancejournal Says:

    Saying “yes” to help is one of the hardest things to do. It indicates need and weakness–but all of us are at times needy and weak, and that’s okay. It is human to sometimes be in a jam, and it is also human to help. All of us have to develop the capacity to do both.

    Great post Judy!

    — Adrian

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